Tuesday, April 16, 2019


It's our anniversary!  We've been married 14 years, which we were fortunate enough to celebrate with friends this past weekend.  Today, we squeezed in a lunch date where we dined on a patio in most gorgeous weather.  I even washed my hair for the occasion.


How do I describe being married 14 years?  Well, we have certainly had our ups and downs, as all couples do.  We are committed to us, and I'm eternally grateful for that fact.  He's my best friend, and at the end of the day, he's the one I want to talk with the most.  After 14 years, I'm thankful to be able to say that.

Does it take work?  Every day.  Every day, we have to make choices to prioritize one another in the hustle and bustle of our lives.  I have to look out for his interests and vice versa, and when we are dialed in to what the other needs, we often find that things tend to iron themselves out.  Trying to see life through his eyes pulls me out of my own perspective and broadens my horizons, and we both benefit enormously.  We've learned what makes us tick individually and together, and we are making healthier choices than ever before to help sustain us through the hard and sail us through the good.

One thing that continues to keep us connected is our weekly Sunday meetings where we ask each other the same four questions and get on the same page about the week ahead.  We've been doing it for years (8 of them!), so its become second nature and also necessary.  I've learned along the way that I buck against discipline, but putting mechanisms into place for good habits is critical to us creating the environment we need in our home.  Anytime we miss the meeting, we usually end up lamenting it the rest of the week.

This morning as we had a mini "State of the Spensts," we were pleased to find ourselves in a healthier place.  There is hard all around us, but the Lord is continuing to strengthen us and equip us for the roads we are walking.  And, we are finding ways to laugh at the days to come, as well as the ones that we are in.  That, in itself, feels like a miracle in life.

So thankful to be doing life with John and looking back in gratitude at all that we've been gifted with during our time together!  I posted lots of our wedding pictures here and several of our honeymoon pictures here, and here is a walk down anniversary lane!

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